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Working from Home with a Toddler While Pregnant
http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/working-from-home-with-a-toddler-while-pregnant/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=working-from-home-with-a-toddler-while-pregnant http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/?p=441 <div><img src=”https://secureservercdn.net/126.96.36.199/nnn.bb6.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Work-at-home-mom-with-toddler-1024×683.jpg” class=”ff-og-image-inserted”></div><p><em>We may earn money or products from the companies mentioned in this post when you buy products from our links at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.</em></p><div class=”mnet_plugin codeblock”><div id=”652146945″> </div></div><div class=”code-block code-block-1″> </div><p>Suddenly, this blog fell off my priority list. In the fall, my husband returned to school while still working full time. Our son turned two and continues to demand time and attention. </p><p>My business is thriving despite the pandemic, and I’m busier than ever. </p><p>But we also embarked on a new endeavor. We’re expecting our second child, which has of course taken tons of energy and made getting it all done even harder. </p><p>Most days with being early pregnant while chasing a toddler and running a business, I feel like I get the bare minimum done. </p><p>The only way I had the time and energy to get out my maternity clothes from storage was the added time of the long Thanksgiving weekend. </p><p>I’ve learned a lot in my three and a half months of pregnancy while working from home with a toddler. Here’s a look and how you can apply it to your work-at-home life too. </p><h2><strong>You can push through when it feels like you’ve got nothing left</strong></h2><p>Amid my husband starting school and deciding to expand our family, I got a great opportunity. I knew it would stretch me during these early days of pregnancy. But it was so great an opportunity I couldn’t turn it down. </p><p>So I learned that even when I’m exhausted, I can keep pushing through. After my son goes to bed, I’ve been completely focused on this project. </p><p>Thankfully, it’s coming to a close and I’ll be able to relax a bit more and rest my mind in the evenings. I’m glad I didn’t shy away from it even though it has certainly stretched what I thought was possible.</p><h2><strong>As a freelancing mom, constant re-evaluation is important</strong></h2><p>Since the pandemic put a halt to our busy activity schedule, I was able to take on new clients. But now things have changed, and my time is stretched again. </p><p>So I have to find ways to cut back or re-evaluate accounts that aren’t the best fit. It’s challenging and I hate telling clients no. But it’s become essential and will become more important as we approach the arrival date of our little one. </p><p>My goal for the new year has been to only take on new projects that are an excellent fit for me and my family. This means limiting the time spent on phone calls because, in just a few short months, we’ll have a noisy baby in the house again. </p><p>And my toddler will be dealing with an adjustment and need his mom in a new way. So this year is the year of cutting back and doing only what matters most.</p><h2><strong>Those things that seemed so important suddenly aren’t</strong></h2><p>Case in point, this blog. As much as I love fostering community with other moms, it just couldn’t be a priority on the days when I was sick and exhausted. </p><p>We’ve cut out areas of our life that weren’t essential during those first trimester days. And when the time comes, we can add them back as energy returns and I feel better. </p><p>For now, the important thing is taking care of my toddler and growing a healthy baby. Of course, we have to pay the mortgage so work doesn’t disappear, but I can’t function with the same go-getter spirit as I had before pregnancy.</p><p>Thanks for continuing to follow and share your thoughts on work-at-home motherhood. I love hearing other moms’ perspectives and sharing in this experience. Raising young children is lots of work no matter whether you work in the home, outside the home or as a stay-at-home mom. It’s all challenging and we all need support.</p><link href=”//cdn-images.mailchimp.com/embedcode/classic-10_7.css” rel=”stylesheet” type=”text/css”><style type=”text/css”></style><p><strong><a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org”></a></strong> <a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org/acceptable.html”>(Why?)</a></p>Tue, 12 Jan 2021 17:28:48 +0000Rebekah en-US text/html http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/working-from-home-with-a-toddler-while-pregnant/ Stay-at-home moms Work-at-home mom tips
Does this slower pandemic life have a silver lining for stressed parents?
http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/does-this-slower-pandemic-life-have-a-silver-lining-for-stressed-parents/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=does-this-slower-pandemic-life-have-a-silver-lining-for-stressed-parents http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/?p=420 <div><img src=”https://secureservercdn.net/188.8.131.52/nnn.bb6.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Does-the-pandemic-shutdown-have-a-silver-lining-for-stressed-parents.jpg?time=1613143305″ class=”ff-og-image-inserted”></div><p><em>We may earn money or products from the companies mentioned in this post when you buy products from our links at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.</em></p><div class=”mnet_plugin codeblock”><div id=”652146945″> </div></div><div class=”code-block code-block-1″> </div><p>Let me start by saying I miss my daily activities. I never wanted to be a mom who was just home all day. And so my son and I had daily activities we left the house for. </p><p>Of course, that all changed in March when gatherings and events went away. No matter what side of the debate you’re on about the shutdowns across the nation, there might be one silver lining: you can reevaluate what you’re involved in and how much you run around. </p><p>Maybe having something scheduled every day isn’t necessary. Toddlers need unstructured play. And maybe the less I’m involved in, the more I can focus on my family. </p><p>Ultimately, more family time could become the silver lining of what’s shaping up to be a challenging time globally. </p><h2><strong>The pandemic’s effect on work-at-home moms</strong></h2><p>As a freelancing business owner, the sudden drop in business once many companies were forced to close was challenging. But it had a silver lining. I could strategically choose new clients and partners that better fit my working style and remove some of the more stressful people and scenarios that make my work-at-home mom life hard. </p><p>And as a mom, I’m focused on my son. We eat lunch with dad each day, spend at least an hour outside and try hard to laugh and play as much as possible.</p><p>I’m sure mommies with multiple children or school-aged children that they were suddenly homeschooling have it much harder than I do. And so maybe this silver lining I’m talking about isn’t there for you.</p><p>For me, there are a few key areas where I can see I’ve grown over the last two months and I hope to keep growing from. </p><h2><strong>Filling our work-at-home mom with toddler time</strong></h2><p>If you’d told me two months ago that I’d fall into a good rhythm with strong daily routines without going anywhere, I’d probably have laughed at you. In the early weeks, it felt like I might die of boredom, and I think my son had similar sentiments. </p><p>Then I got creative and have been shocked how well we can fill our work-at-home mom with toddler days. Routine has been crucial for me, but I also don’t put too much pressure on myself to be strict about routine. I never force it because that might cause more stress, but a gentle guide toward routine can help. </p><p>Here’s what our days generally look like:</p><ul><li>6:20 wake up for me with work until my son wakes up</li><li>8/8:30 my son wakes up and the day really begins. We eat breakfast and get ready for the day. </li><li>9 I work out with Walk Away the Pounds while he plays</li><li>10 unstructured playtime for him with some educational tv mixed in while I get some more work done</li><li>11 we head outside and I run a couple of miles with him in the stroller. Then we play outside. </li><li>12 lunchtime with dad! It’s one of my favorite times of the day because it’s my adult socialization time. Plus, I get to take a shower in peace while my husband feeds our little guy. </li><li>1 music class. My sister-in-law signed us up for an online music class to teach sensory and other toddler learning through music. </li><li>1:30 head upstairs to read books to slow things down for naptime. </li><li>2 nap time for my toddler and work time for me. I also brew another pot of coffee and my husband emerges from the basement for our afternoon cup of coffee. It’s a brief encounter but nice to have adult interaction even just to say hi. </li><li>4/4:30 my son wakes up. We play, clean the kitchen to prep for dinner, and I finish up any work that must get done for the day. </li><li>5:30 dad “comes home from work” (shhh we’re a few months in and out little guy still doesn’t know dad is working from home)</li><li>6:30 dinner</li><li>7:30 evening walk</li><li>8 books and bedtime wind down</li><li>8:15/8:30 bedtime for our toddler</li></ul><h2><strong>Avoiding the boredom trap</strong></h2><p>Early on, my mom friends were sending me recipes for homemade slime and toddler sensory experiences. I sort of just chuckled to myself because my toddler can’t sit still for any of that.</p><p>So avoiding the boredom trap looked different for us. It meant playing outside even when it was still 30-degrees in April. Some days it meant running circles around the dining room table because he thought it was funny and I liked standing up and doing something for a change.</p><p>Make a list of creative activities you can do when you or your child gets bored. It sounds silly on the surface, but it’s super helpful in the end.</p><h2><strong>Not getting sucked into too much screen time</strong></h2><p>You know those pandemic memes about people “finishing Netflix,” early on, that was probably me. I’m pretty sure I’ve completed 4-5 different series on Netflix in just three months. Yikes!</p><p>It’s easy to lean on screen time during these long days at home. But I urge you (and me) not to. </p><p>That’s where the schedule has been really nice. We don’t fall into a rut of not knowing what to do and defaulting to the screen. </p><p>On rainy days, we run around upstairs. I don’t know why, but my toddler loves to run from bedroom to bedroom squealing with delight. And a change in scenery breaks up the monotony. It’s different for everyone I’m sure, so find what activities work for you.</p><h2><strong>Keep looking at the bright side</strong></h2><p>The pandemic has no end in sight. Even as our state starts to slowly reopen things, I’m not anticipating storytime at the library to return anytime soon. All the activities we used to take part in are classified as non-essential and not worth the risk.</p><p>So with no end in sight, it’s easy to feel down and depressed about the situation. I’m going to encourage you not to do that to yourself.</p><p>Make a list of the good parts about this slower time of life. Stop counting what you’ve lost and count what you’ve earned. I’ll never be able to replicate these days with my toddler and the excitement he experiences when one of the neighbors starts up their mower (some days, I contemplate paying the neighbors to mow just to entertain him!). </p><p>Hang in there and know that someday, you might look back on these days with a sense of longing and nostalgia. </p><link href=”//cdn-images.mailchimp.com/embedcode/classic-10_7.css” rel=”stylesheet” type=”text/css”><style type=”text/css”></style><p><strong><a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org”></a></strong> <a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org/acceptable.html”>(Why?)</a></p>Fri, 30 Oct 2020 13:16:09 +0000Rebekah en-US text/html http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/does-this-slower-pandemic-life-have-a-silver-lining-for-stressed-parents/ Stay-at-home moms Work-at-home mom tips
Creating safe space for babies and toddlers to play in work-at-home mom environments
http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/creating-safe-space-for-babies-and-toddlers-to-play-in-work-at-home-mom-environments-2/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=creating-safe-space-for-babies-and-toddlers-to-play-in-work-at-home-mom-environments-2 http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/?p=411 <div><img src=”https://secureservercdn.net/184.108.40.206/nnn.bb6.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Creating-safe-space-for-babies-and-toddlers-to-play-in-work-at-home-mom-environments.jpg?time=1613143305″ class=”ff-og-image-inserted”></div><p><em>We may earn money or products from the companies mentioned in this post when you buy products from our links at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.</em></p><div class=”mnet_plugin codeblock”><div id=”652146945″> </div></div><div class=”code-block code-block-1″> </div><p>Work-at-home moms need their babies and toddlers to have safe spaces for independent play during the workday. That’s not to say you can’t pause, play with them for a few minutes or offer instruction to keep them safe. But the fewer interruptions you have, the more productive you’ll be.</p><p>Personally, I have various spaces where I work and my son plays. While my home office is dedicated solely to a workspace, sometimes life demands that I work elsewhere too. The deeper you get into work-at-home motherhood, the more you’ll see this firsthand as well.</p><p>Here’s how I create safe spaces for my toddler throughout my home as a work-at-home mom. None of these is a substitute for keeping a close eye on your child and they are not perfect so you should still monitor your child carefully. But these can help you get stuff done.</p><h2><strong>Baby and toddler safety in cribs and Pack ‘n Plays</strong></h2><p>Plus, if you spend any time on the phone, you might need a way to encourage quiet time during those calls. I do my best to schedule my phone calls during my son’s naptime. But it isn’t a perfect system and sometimes I have to take phone calls for my marketing business while he is awake. I’ve been so impressed with how well people take it when he makes noise in the background. We’re on a great trajectory toward supporting the <a href=”http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/work-at-home-mom-revolution-why-im-proud-to-be-part-of-it/”>work-at-home mom revolution</a>! </p><p>But sometimes, I need quiet to focus for a phone call and my son spends 15 minutes in his crib. To an outsider, it might sound like a bad situation for him, but I always make it fun and I know his limits. Beyond 20 minutes, he gets antsy and grumpy so I only use the tactic when I know it will be fast.</p><p>I use a few tactics to make time in his crib or a <a href=”https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B083C43KDY/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B083C43KDY&linkCode=as2&tag=stayathomew04-20&linkId=2b8553a4871ad6311e8411cf649bd25c”>Pack N Play</a> fun.</p><ul><li><strong>Put safe and fun toys with him: </strong>My son has a <a href=”https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07PDFMMP8/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B07PDFMMP8&linkCode=as2&tag=stayathomew04-20&linkId=33538cb3e488d0d2966e1815e226d6d5″>mobile</a> that plays music, has lights and spins. He didn’t enjoy it so much as an infant but surprisingly, it’s become a great tool now in toddlerhood. I also put stuffed animals, blocks and other fun toys in there with him, so he has something to keep him entertained. Until the baby is a year old, be sure to follow safe sleep tactics and guidance on what should and should not be in the crib with them. </li><li><strong>Play music: </strong>He absolutely loves music and it tends to make him happy no matter where he is or what’s going on. And of course, I want him to be happy while he plays so I put on music to help.</li><li><strong>Offer toys he doesn’t normally play with: </strong>We don’t play in the bedrooms for the most part so toys that are up there are new and fun for him. I keep them separate from daily toys for this very reason. Something “new” can help keep those little ones entertained. </li><li><strong>Keep it short and infrequent: </strong>I try not to press my limits or my son’s when it comes to time in the crib. I know once I reach 20 minutes, he’s done and needs a change of scenery. And so, I only use the crib or <a href=”https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B083C43KDY/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B083C43KDY&linkCode=as2&tag=stayathomew04-20&linkId=2b8553a4871ad6311e8411cf649bd25c”>Pack N Play</a> when I really need to. This helps make it effective and fun when it needs to be.</li></ul><p>Of course, once your little one can climb out of the crib or <a href=”https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B083C43KDY/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B083C43KDY&linkCode=as2&tag=stayathomew04-20&linkId=2b8553a4871ad6311e8411cf649bd25c”>Pack N Play</a>, these tactics are no longer valid because it’s no longer a safe space to leave them. </p><h2><strong>Baby gates for floors with stairs</strong></h2><p>On our main floor, we thankfully have a door to the basement stairs but the stairs that go upstairs are wide open. We use a <a href=”https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001OC5UNA/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B001OC5UNA&linkCode=as2&tag=stayathomew04-20&linkId=e03c945299c8bff14b8a68b08a5de867″>baby gate</a> to keep this floor safe and to keep our son from wandering off in a split second because of course, he’s extremely fast. </p><p>We keep another<a href=”https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001OC5UNA/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B001OC5UNA&linkCode=as2&tag=stayathomew04-20&linkId=e03c945299c8bff14b8a68b08a5de867″> gate</a> in the basement so that we can shake things up a bit and play upstairs and downstairs. A new environment and change of pace can really help keep those little ones entertained and happy.</p><h2><strong>Home office protection</strong></h2><p>I love my home office. With an extra monitor, space to spread out and a printer, it makes work more productive and enjoyable. But keeping chords out of my son’s reach is tough. I love this hack to fix the problem. Put a <a href=”https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0055LV3XW/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B0055LV3XW&linkCode=as2&tag=stayathomew04-20&linkId=23dfdbe2cb328adf2f5b691375b34fda”>baby gate</a> up in the foot space of your desk and be sure the chords are all behind the gate. You can get a super cheap gate for this purpose. </p><p>Additionally, you can hang your <a href=”https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0080Z7974/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B0080Z7974&linkCode=as2&tag=stayathomew04-20&linkId=03608366754de81b570eacabee8aee39″>power strip</a> on the back of your desk to keep the chords out of sight and out of reach from your little ones to enjoy the productivity a home office provides. Make that power strip easily accessible by just using strips of <a href=”https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00H3R9S1K/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B00H3R9S1K&linkCode=as2&tag=stayathomew04-20&linkId=ecff0aa8dfea32594ea274ba1c44f02b”>Velcro</a> on the back of your desk and the back of your power strip.</p><p>Get started in your stay-at-home working mom life with the <a href=”http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/stay-at-home-mom-jobs-and-resources/”>Jobs and Resources</a> page!</p><link href=”//cdn-images.mailchimp.com/embedcode/classic-10_7.css” rel=”stylesheet” type=”text/css”><style type=”text/css”></style><p><strong><a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org”></a></strong> <a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org/acceptable.html”>(Why?)</a></p>Thu, 17 Sep 2020 12:35:18 +0000Rebekah en-US text/html http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/creating-safe-space-for-babies-and-toddlers-to-play-in-work-at-home-mom-environments-2/ Stay-at-home moms Work-at-home mom tips