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What it’s like to be a freelance work-at-home mom with no maternity leave
http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/what-its-like-to-be-a-freelance-work-at-home-mom-with-no-maternity-leave/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=what-its-like-to-be-a-freelance-work-at-home-mom-with-no-maternity-leave http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/?p=445 <div><img src=”https://secureservercdn.net/188.8.131.52/nnn.bb6.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Maternity-Leave-of-a-Freelance-Work-at-home-mom-1024×684.jpg” class=”ff-og-image-inserted”></div><p><em>We may earn money or products from the companies mentioned in this post when you buy products from our links at no additional cost to you. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.</em></p><div class=”mnet_plugin codeblock”><div id=”652146945″> </div></div><div class=”code-block code-block-1″> </div><p>I’m wading into unchartered waters in a few months. I’ll be welcoming a new baby in late spring but taking no maternity leave.</p><p>That’s because I’m a freelancing work-at-home mom. My business is responding daily to my clients. There’s only me and no backup to cover a maternity leave. I don’t have short-term disability insurance to pay the bills and my toddler will still need me to be his mommy throughout the process.</p><p>Instead of worrying or feeling bad for myself, I’m in serious preparation mode for what the late spring and early summer months hold.</p><p>Caring for my little ones is my motivation. So I’m busy interviewing other digital marketers to see if I can offload some work temporarily. I’m calling in family and friends to help out in caring for my toddler and being disciplined in time management.</p><p>The preparation and time I put in now will pay off in dividends when my baby arrives and I’m able to keep all my existing freelance clients. So here’s a look at how I’ll be a new mom, take no maternity leave and avoid losing my sanity. </p><h2><strong>Accepting help from family and friends</strong></h2><p>I’m so blessed that my husband gets three weeks of paid paternity leave. Many families do not have this great luxury. Instead, new moms just have to figure it all out while they heal from childbirth.</p><p>My number one support network will be my amazing husband. He took fantastic care of me and our little guy two and half years ago when we welcomed our first child. </p><p>The big difference for me will be that back then, I was working a corporate job and got 12 weeks of paid leave to just bond with my baby. But then came the hard part of the daily daycare visits and constant preparation for the next day. </p><p>I keep telling myself that all this work will be worth it in providing a more relaxed environment for our second baby than our first baby experienced going to daycare. The baby will get to sleep in (and so will my toddler) and spend the day in a way that’s best for them.</p><p>I’m also very blessed to come from a large family. This sweet baby comes into the world with so many aunts and uncles ready to greet them and provide all the snuggles. So I’m prepped and ready to accept all help that my family offers.</p><p>Friends are also offering a helping hand. Other stay-at-home moms in my network have already offered to host playdates for my toddler and provide quiet space for me to go work for an hour while snuggling the baby. What a gift! </p><p>It’s so important for freelancing work-at-home moms to accept these kind gestures and not feel like a burden to family and friends while going through such a huge transition. </p><h2><strong>Time and project management as a work-at-home mom</strong></h2><p>Since the start of the year, I’ve been evaluating my clients and taking stock of my time management skills. Slowly, I’m weaning myself off social media and wasteful habits that steal my time and attention from what really matters.</p><p>Instead of trying to make all these changes once the baby arrives, I’m doing it now. I’m focusing on caring for myself, my work, my clients and my little ones to prepare for a smooth transition.</p><p>Even if you don’t have a huge life event like welcoming a second child looming, I encourage you to do the same. Take stock of where your time is going and whether projects are profitable.</p><p>Do what you need to do, but don’t get so wrapped up in your work that you forget your main purpose is caring for your family. </p><p>My work drives me, gets me out of bed in the morning and provides a healthy way to engage my brain while being a mom. But ultimately, it takes the back seat to caring for my family. </p><p>That’s why I’m transitioning out of certain clients and projects now to prepare for <a href=”http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/why-my-short-breastfeeding-journey-isnt-a-failure/” data-type=”post” data-id=”110″>breastfeeding</a>, late-night soothing sessions and more with our new baby. Having less work will help me stay calm and focused during these stressful early days of having a baby. And that will help me be a better mom.</p><h2><strong>Finding backup freelance resources</strong></h2><p>Even with the best planning and support from loved ones, I know there will be days where I just can’t get it all done. The baby will need me, my toddler will want me to play kitchen with him and I’ll feel stretched too thin.</p><p>That’s why I’ve been looking for backup freelance resources to cover some work in those early months. Having a backup person to help out could be great for vacations and other busy weeks or months in life moving forward.</p><p>And I’m so glad to have found another mom who also works from home with her littles around. I get to support her in her work while she supports me in new motherhood. It’s a beautiful thing. While she can do what I do, I don’t feel threatened by her in any way. In fact, it’s a great connection to make because you can always learn something new from a new contact.</p><p>Have tips on how to work-at-home with a new baby? I’d love to hear them! We still have a few months left to prepare for this little one, and I’m trying to take full advantage of that.</p><p><strong><a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org”></a></strong> <a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org/acceptable.html”>(Why?)</a></p>Tue, 23 Feb 2021 15:00:00 +0000Rebekah en-US text/html http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/what-its-like-to-be-a-freelance-work-at-home-mom-with-no-maternity-leave/ Work-at-home mom tips
Working from Home with a Toddler While Pregnant
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Does this slower pandemic life have a silver lining for stressed parents?
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And so my son and I had daily activities we left the house for. </p><p>Of course, that all changed in March when gatherings and events went away. No matter what side of the debate you’re on about the shutdowns across the nation, there might be one silver lining: you can reevaluate what you’re involved in and how much you run around. </p><p>Maybe having something scheduled every day isn’t necessary. Toddlers need unstructured play. And maybe the less I’m involved in, the more I can focus on my family. </p><p>Ultimately, more family time could become the silver lining of what’s shaping up to be a challenging time globally. </p><h2><strong>The pandemic’s effect on work-at-home moms</strong></h2><p>As a freelancing business owner, the sudden drop in business once many companies were forced to close was challenging. But it had a silver lining. I could strategically choose new clients and partners that better fit my working style and remove some of the more stressful people and scenarios that make my work-at-home mom life hard. </p><p>And as a mom, I’m focused on my son. We eat lunch with dad each day, spend at least an hour outside and try hard to laugh and play as much as possible.</p><p>I’m sure mommies with multiple children or school-aged children that they were suddenly homeschooling have it much harder than I do. And so maybe this silver lining I’m talking about isn’t there for you.</p><p>For me, there are a few key areas where I can see I’ve grown over the last two months and I hope to keep growing from. </p><h2><strong>Filling our work-at-home mom with toddler time</strong></h2><p>If you’d told me two months ago that I’d fall into a good rhythm with strong daily routines without going anywhere, I’d probably have laughed at you. In the early weeks, it felt like I might die of boredom, and I think my son had similar sentiments. </p><p>Then I got creative and have been shocked how well we can fill our work-at-home mom with toddler days. Routine has been crucial for me, but I also don’t put too much pressure on myself to be strict about routine. I never force it because that might cause more stress, but a gentle guide toward routine can help. </p><p>Here’s what our days generally look like:</p><ul><li>6:20 wake up for me with work until my son wakes up</li><li>8/8:30 my son wakes up and the day really begins. We eat breakfast and get ready for the day. </li><li>9 I work out with Walk Away the Pounds while he plays</li><li>10 unstructured playtime for him with some educational tv mixed in while I get some more work done</li><li>11 we head outside and I run a couple of miles with him in the stroller. Then we play outside. </li><li>12 lunchtime with dad! It’s one of my favorite times of the day because it’s my adult socialization time. Plus, I get to take a shower in peace while my husband feeds our little guy. </li><li>1 music class. My sister-in-law signed us up for an online music class to teach sensory and other toddler learning through music. </li><li>1:30 head upstairs to read books to slow things down for naptime. </li><li>2 nap time for my toddler and work time for me. I also brew another pot of coffee and my husband emerges from the basement for our afternoon cup of coffee. It’s a brief encounter but nice to have adult interaction even just to say hi. </li><li>4/4:30 my son wakes up. We play, clean the kitchen to prep for dinner, and I finish up any work that must get done for the day. </li><li>5:30 dad “comes home from work” (shhh we’re a few months in and out little guy still doesn’t know dad is working from home)</li><li>6:30 dinner</li><li>7:30 evening walk</li><li>8 books and bedtime wind down</li><li>8:15/8:30 bedtime for our toddler</li></ul><h2><strong>Avoiding the boredom trap</strong></h2><p>Early on, my mom friends were sending me recipes for homemade slime and toddler sensory experiences. I sort of just chuckled to myself because my toddler can’t sit still for any of that.</p><p>So avoiding the boredom trap looked different for us. It meant playing outside even when it was still 30-degrees in April. Some days it meant running circles around the dining room table because he thought it was funny and I liked standing up and doing something for a change.</p><p>Make a list of creative activities you can do when you or your child gets bored. It sounds silly on the surface, but it’s super helpful in the end.</p><h2><strong>Not getting sucked into too much screen time</strong></h2><p>You know those pandemic memes about people “finishing Netflix,” early on, that was probably me. I’m pretty sure I’ve completed 4-5 different series on Netflix in just three months. Yikes!</p><p>It’s easy to lean on screen time during these long days at home. But I urge you (and me) not to. </p><p>That’s where the schedule has been really nice. We don’t fall into a rut of not knowing what to do and defaulting to the screen. </p><p>On rainy days, we run around upstairs. I don’t know why, but my toddler loves to run from bedroom to bedroom squealing with delight. And a change in scenery breaks up the monotony. It’s different for everyone I’m sure, so find what activities work for you.</p><h2><strong>Keep looking at the bright side</strong></h2><p>The pandemic has no end in sight. Even as our state starts to slowly reopen things, I’m not anticipating storytime at the library to return anytime soon. All the activities we used to take part in are classified as non-essential and not worth the risk.</p><p>So with no end in sight, it’s easy to feel down and depressed about the situation. I’m going to encourage you not to do that to yourself.</p><p>Make a list of the good parts about this slower time of life. Stop counting what you’ve lost and count what you’ve earned. I’ll never be able to replicate these days with my toddler and the excitement he experiences when one of the neighbors starts up their mower (some days, I contemplate paying the neighbors to mow just to entertain him!). </p><p>Hang in there and know that someday, you might look back on these days with a sense of longing and nostalgia. </p><link href=”//cdn-images.mailchimp.com/embedcode/classic-10_7.css” rel=”stylesheet” type=”text/css”><style type=”text/css”></style><p><strong><a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org”></a></strong> <a href=”https://blockads.fivefilters.org/acceptable.html”>(Why?)</a></p>Fri, 30 Oct 2020 13:16:09 +0000Rebekah en-US text/html http://stayathomeworkingmomlife.com/does-this-slower-pandemic-life-have-a-silver-lining-for-stressed-parents/ Stay-at-home moms Work-at-home mom tips