Whether youve been forced into early retirement, downsized, or are tired of being at home and eager to work again, or even taking your first job, entering the work force after the age of 50 can hold some challenges. Here are some tips from someone who coaches a lot of people in this transition.
FOCUS ON YOUR SKILLS
Focus on the skills you have, not your deficits. Chances are youve accumulated a great range of talents over the years, particularly people skills. Studies show that Emotional Intelligence generally increases up to the age of 50 or so (Reuven Bar-On, Ph.D.) and EQ includes those soft skills so sought after in todays work place.
Your ability to handle stress and handle people can be a great asset.
GET WHAT YOU DONT HAVE
Dont be intimidated if you havent had the chance to get computer-proficient. Sign up for courses at the local community college or computer store. People over 50 are the fastest growing segment on the Internet.
You can also read. A friend of mine who had been a school counselor for many years decided to apply for a job as principal. She read as many text books on the subject as she could find before the interview, aced the interview and got the job.
You could also, of course, get an online degree, or a bricks-and-mortar degree, but the possibility exists of doing this on your own time, spending less money and perhaps doing it more rapidly.
FOCUS ON THE PLUSSES
A friend of mine whos 59 applied for a job recently, and both the HR person and the manager she interviewed with asked her though its probably not legal if she had children. Clearly this was an office that had experienced difficulties with parents taking time off for their children, and were looking for someone not so encumbered.
Whether or not its right for employers to look at it this way, once your children have left the home, or are grown, driving, self-sufficient and back home, you have an asset to offer. You wont be calling in when the kids are sick, or leaving early to take them for orthodontist appointments, and you can find a way to mention this. My friend capitalized on this, and she got the job though shed been out of the work force for three years and was nearly 60. (And at her highest salary to-date.)
IT ISNT AGE-RELATED (NLESS YOU THINK IT IS)
A client of mine was entering the work force at the age of 60 and mentioned concern about his memory. Some people experience some short-term memory loss as they age, though it can be minimal, and it also depends upon the individual. I asked him some questions around this, and by the end of our conversation he admitted that hed always been that way, and really hadnt suffered an appreciable deficit.
Be particularly cognizant of this on the first few weeks on the job. Everyone who takes a new job is stressed, and stress affects us cognitively as well as emotionally. These days, every fax machine, every phone, and every filing system is different. What you knew in the past doesnt always apply. What does apply is your ability to focus, learn and apply. If you anticipate having problems because of your age, youll add that source of stress to the mix, and, like all self-fulfilling prophecies, you may make it come true.
If you do forget some things the first days on the job, which is quite normal, just keep forging ahead. You might also find it helpful to carry a notepad with you and write things down. One client mentioned she was having trouble remembering whether you needed a 1 prior to one of the area codes in our vicinity, a problem typical in many metro areas these days. She thought she was losing it, until a much younger co-worker told her, No one can remember that. Just try it with, then try it without.
Dont vocally attribute things to age. Do this as a service to yourself, but also to other older workers. Any time you make a comment such as, Im getting too old to bend over like this/remember file codes like this/fight with a machine like this, youre doing a disservice to other older workers.
My client Isabelle is 55. The last office she worked in, she was the fastest typist, able to keyboard at over 100 wpm. She was one of the few in the office not wearing a wrist brace, or suffering from carpal tunnel syndrome.
If you have physical impairments, dont attribute them to age, because there are plenty of people your age who dont have them. There are people with severe osteoarthritis in their 30s, and people like Isabelle, who seem immune to the disease. It has nothing to do with age.
USE IT OR LOSE IT
If youre returning to the work force in a completely new field it may have been quite a while since you learned something new. I have a friend whos a physician who is just burnt out. Hes going into sales, because he doesnt want to retire. However, the field of medicine has changed dramatically over his lifetime, and kept him learning new things, so hes not at all troubled by the fact.
Continuous lifetime learning is one of the keys to resilience, an important EQ competency. If youve gotten lax about learning, embrace this opportunity.
I have a number of clients over 50 who are looking for jobs or new careers. Theres a difference between those who have chosen this path, and those who feel they were forced into it. I think of a friend of mine who found out, after her third child, she couldnt have any more babies. I really didnt want any more kids, she said. It just made me furious not to have the choice.
Emotional Intelligence means managing your emotions. If youre stuck in a situation you dont like, the only thing you can control is your attitude. No one wants to work with someone whos negative, pessimistic or hostile, no matter how great their skills or expertise, no matter what their age.
If youre having trouble managing your attitude, consider getting help with this.
GET A COACH
Coaching is wonderful for this transition. You will likely encounter negatives from those around you. People may tell you, Youll never get a job at this age, or No one will hire you for anything decent. To counter this, you need support, and you also need specific examples to the contrary, which a coach who works in this area can provide. I can tell you many specific examples from my own coaching practice.
IT WILL TAKE LONGER
Not necessarily. Everyone who looking for the job these days has a hard go of it. It depends upon many factors, including the job market in the town where you live.
NO ONE WANTS TO MANAGE THEIR MOTHER
I interviewed an HR professional to check out the other side of the picture. He agreed that some managers dont want a report whos the age of their parent, but some do; and some dont even notice. Managers are human and they have their idiosyncrasies. Some dont like young, unseasoned workers! The best managers are eager for the richness of a mix of ages, backgrounds, and expertise because they know what it can add to the bottom line.
As the HR professional pointed out, its people over 40 who are protected, and, as he said, Do you have any idea how many people this applies to? Quite a few. If you encounter someone who has prejudices against older workers, then go find someone who doesnt. Theyre out there.
HAVE A PLAN
Getting a job in todays market requires a commitment of time and energy. I recommend you work with a coach to help you come up with a plan, stay enthusiastic and keep at it. Dont listen to people who are negative about it. There are plenty of people over 50 back in the work force and loving it. The best is yet to come!